You spent years pouring yourself into raising them. Now they need you differently ~ and it's more complicated than you though
You spent years pouring yourself into raising them. Now they need you differently ~ and it's more complicated than you though
Maybe the kids need you differently now ~ less, or in ways you didn't expect. Maybe they're still living under your roof, but you've noticed your relationship feels different, and that shift feels strange without a clear moment to point to. Maybe a son got married and you're quietly figuring out your new place in his life. Maybe they came back home after college and just when you thought you'd figured out the empty nest, you're starting over again ~ except now they're adults, which is a whole different thing.
Maybe it's your relationships. The friendships that fit who you were as a mom don't quite fit who you're becoming. Some feel like they're deepening naturally. Others feel like you're both just going through the motions. You're not sure which ones to tend and which ones to release.
Maybe it's purpose. You've been good at what you do for a long time. But good at something and lit up by something are two very different things, and somewhere along the way you started feeling the gap between them. Or maybe you've retired, and instead of the freedom you expected, you're sitting with a quiet question you didn't see coming: if I'm not that anymore, who am I?
Maybe everything is shifting at once and you can't quite find solid ground beneath you.
Here's what I've noticed: as we move into this season, something shifts in us too. We start caring less about what others think. We get a little more unapologetic about who we actually are. The empty nest has a way of clarifying things ~ because when the role that organized your days is suddenly smaller, the question of how you want to live this next chapter stops being abstract. It rises to the forefront. In the best way possible.
You don't have to have the words for it yet. That's exactly where we start.
I know this feeling from the inside. And I bring more than empathy to it.
I spent over 25 years in quantitative research and strategy, first at a market research consultancy, then running my own consulting business, working with Fortune 500 companies along the way. The promotions came. The repeat clients came. By every external measure, I was succeeding. And still, there it was: that quiet, persistent hum. That feeling of "is this all there is?"
It took a week in the Costa Rican rainforest, a lot of honest reflection, some tears and laughter too, and I'll be real, some wisdom from my then 14-year-old daughter to finally point myself toward what I now believe was always meant for me. For years my Big P Purpose was my kids. As they grew into their own lives I realized I needed something that belonged just to me.
For me that happened to be this work, but purpose doesn't have to look like a career. It looks different for every woman. What matters is that it's genuinely yours. Finding mine changed everything. And I've come to believe that for women in this season, having something that is truly yours, whether that's purpose, identity, confidence, direction, or simply a clearer sense of who you are right now, isn't a luxury. It's essential.
I am ACC credentialed through the International Coaching Federation, the gold standard for professional coaching. I also hold a BS in Business Administration, a certification in market research methodologies and analysis, and certifications in Applied Positive Psychology and Positive Psychology Coaching, the evidence based science of wellbeing pioneered by Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania.
It turns out that the 25 years I spent asking deep questions that uncover insights translates directly into coaching. Women often tell me they leave our conversations seeing connections in their own story they couldn't see before.
What you need isn't advice. It's someone who can help you hear yourself. That's what I'm here for.
There is a metaphor I love for what coaching actually does
When you're stuck inside a bottle, you can't read the label. You're too close. You can feel that something is off, but you can't see it clearly enough to name it, let alone change it.
That's where I come in.
I'm not here to tell you what to do or hand you a plan. Through reflective questions, deep listening, and an ability to draw threads across everything you share, the things you've never quite said out loud, I help you read the label. See what's actually there beneath the surface.
Coaching closes the gap, from where you are now to where you want to be, and who you want to become.
I work specifically with women navigating the empty nest years ~ that season when the role that organized so much of your life suddenly shifts, and you find yourself wondering who you are in its absence. I offer private one-on-one coaching, a small group program, and immersive retreats. There's no single right way in, just the one that feels right for where you are right now.
The Art of Flourishing is a warm intimate circle of 8 women navigating the empty nest years together. Evidence based workshops. Deep conversation. An ICF credentialed coach who gets it because she has lived it.
Space is limited to 8 women ~ intimate by design. New circles forming for early 2027, both virtual and in-person in Fort Collins. Join the interest list to be the first to know dates and details.